I was having a conversation the other day with one of my female friends (who is dark skinned)about how all the guys she dates or is attracted to are light skinned. Now I don’t really know if this is the case but it does seem like with her there is a heavy preference towards light skinned men. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. We all have our preferences. Some people like tall people, or people under a certain weight. I’m not any different. My issue is with people who subconsciously think that people of a certain hue might be better than people of another complexion.
I’ve dated women all across the color spectrum. I believe in the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice, but I also have love for the light skinned sisters. Being a darker skinned brother and a 1st generation Nigerian
, I heard all the black and African jokes growing up. As I grew older I learned to love my complexion as well as my “African” features. What is it that makes us want to identify with Caucasian features? What makes us think that straight, silky hair (Caucasian feature) is “pretty” hair while kinky, curly hair (African feature) is bad hair? Is it subconscious self hatred?
Dimwitted people like Young Berg are given public forums to spew all types of hatred. This is a quote from the plastic selling artist himself.
“I’m kinda racist…I don’t like dark butts…You know how some women prefer
light skin men or dark skin men…It’s rare that I do dark butts – that’s what I
call dark skinned women…I [don’t date women] darker than me.”
Things just got “better” from there as he went on to say, “I love the pool test. If you can jump in the pool exactly like you are and you don’t come out looking better than you looked before going in the pool – then that’s not a good look. Any woman that
uses brown gel to set down her baby hair is not poppin.”
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“A topic that is very dear to me and strikes me is African-Americans not
embracing their self as a whole. Ever since the early days of slavery, many
people have felt that their skin color is ugly. Time after time after time,
white people perception of superiority and desecration of the Africans skin
color has made for people to dismiss themselves as beautiful. When something is
black, it is dirty and has negative connotation and for white people to call us
that over four centuries, we start to believe it.”