Who is wrong in this situation?
This is a good way to start off my next 100 posts. Today while talking to a classmate via Facebook Chat, she asked me if I take blog topic suggestions/advice. I never really considered but I guess there is a time for anything so here goes. This post is about a “friend of a friend”.
Also she will be reading this post as well as the comments so please leave comments, if not for my benefit then for hers. Comments would especially be appreciated from guys that are in fraternities.
(Year is 2007)
Kim and her boyfriend of two years, Derrick, mutually decide to call it quits right before graduation. Even though they had a good run at Tennessee State University (TSU), Kim found a really good job at the Department of Agriculture in D.C. and Derrick is staying in Nashville to work for Saturn. Kim was Miss TSU and Derrick was very popular on campus (being a Kappa didn’t hurt either). They keep in contact over the years but they never really re-kindled anything even though there were residual feelings on both parts.
(Fast forward to 2009)
While out at Shadow Bar in DC, Kim runs into a guy that looks really familiar but she can’t really place his face. After a few minutes of conversation she realizes that he went to undergrad with her. His name is Jeremy and he moved to DC after graduation to work for Lockheed Martin. They have a good time that night chopping it up and talking about the undergrad days. They exchange numbers and later on that night it dawns on Kim that Jeremy is a Kappa and she thinks he might even be Derrick’s line brother. She asks Jeremy about it and her thoughts are confirmed. She tells Jeremy that she used to date Derrick and Jeremy says that he knows and it really shouldn’t matter since it was so long ago. Jeremy and Kim continue to date for a couple of months.
Somehow word gets back to Derrick in Nashville and he calls Kim to confront her. Kim’s response to Derrick is “Why should you care if we aren’t together anymore?”. Derrick feels like Kim and Jeremy went behind his back without consulting him about them dating and if they both liked each other then they BOTH should have come to him for clearance.
So here go the questions.
-Does Derrick have the right to ask for clearance from both Kim and Jeremy? or either one of them?
-Should Kim feel like she’s a chapter set-out?
-Should any of this mater since it was so long ago (and Kim and Jeremy live far away)?
-Did Jeremy betray Derrick’s friendship?
-(those frat dudes reading this) What would you do if you were in Jeremy’s situation? In Derrick’s?
-(ladies) Would you ever date two dudes from the same chapter regardless of the circumstances?