We’ve been pretty good friends for a while now. I don’t even remember how we even became friends. That’s what I tell myself because she has placed me in purgatory AKA the friend zone. I had the biggest crush on her when we first met but I guess she only saw me as a friend, so that’s the position I played. We laugh at each other’s jokes, we both listen to the same type of music, we are an intellectual match. We just fit well together. As friends. So frustrating. Eventually I began to look at her as just a friend.
She comes to me for advice or just to vent about the her relationship/men issues and sometimes I just listen because I guess that’s what good friends do. I never really go to her about relationship stuff because I don’t really talk about my feelings. Until that one day I told her that I was planning on becoming exclusive with this one woman I was seeing. When I told her she seemed pretty shocked and I asked her why.
She replied, “Well I never really thought of you as the type of guy who was the commitment type.”
That was 4 months ago and now when we hang out I notice that things have become weird between us. I catch her stealing glances at me and she looks at me a little differently now. I also swear that there is an increase in sexual tension (at least on her end because it was always there on my end). Then one night while we went out on a Friday to have drinks she hit me with it. While I was driving her home she put her hand on my thigh and as I turned and looked in her eyes and I will never forget the next words she said to me:
“I want you right now.”
We both had a couple of drinks so I guess that liquid courage got the best of her. I just couldn’t help but wonder where all of was coming from. Then it dawned on me when all of this attention from her came about. It was when I told her I had a girlfriend. That’s when my conscious took over. Should I do the right and moral thing or should I throw caution to the wind and give into my carnal desires?
What is it about a man that is taken that makes them that more attractive and appealing to women (or vice versa but not really)? Here are reasons why people are already attached might seem more appealing than if they weren’t:
First, men seem much more trustworthy because they haven’t been straying (that you know of). Secondly, it’s a taboo. Exciting, like seducing a priest or
midget porn. Thirdly, conquest and accomplishment. We want what we can’t have. A woman can feel bad about it, but inside there is some part which feeds the ego if she’s good enough to pull a taken man away from his significant other.
Have you ever starting seeing someone differently after you found out they were involved with someone? Did you act on it?
***Based on some comments that have been made I felt I had to come back and add this disclaimer. This story is NOT about Milan and I.***
***Disclaimer #2 This story is fictional.***