This weekend Nashville experienced record-breaking rain, flooding and deaths. Needless to say I’ve been stuck in the house for the latter part of the last 36 hours. Because of this I got a chance to completely catch up on my DVR and other shows that came on television. I just finished watching this show, What Chili Wants. Thanks to twitter I’ve heard various things about this show but I never got a chance to watch it myself. This was completely by choice because I definitely watch the Brandy & Ray-J show (which comes on right after).
Apparently like every other C-list celebrity that’s looking for love, VH-1 decided to give her a shot. My immediate thoughts are that Chili is kind of self-righteous and definitely too picky. I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with having standards but Tionna (the girl setting her up on dates) picked out a variety of men. Based on the tweets from a lot of the women in my timeline some of these guys seemed like winners and they would love to go on dates with most of them.
In my opinion, Chili’s problem is that she has a long check list in her mind of what she wants in a man. Check lists aren’t the problem as long as the items on the list are realistic. Nothing is wrong with wanting a partner who is generous, nice, intelligent, ambitious, good with children, etc. When your list starts comprising items such as: can’t eat pork, has to be this tall, can’t drink at all, etc. you will start to alienate yourself.
My first solution to Chili’s issues is that she is LOOKING for a man. Whatever happened to letting a man find you? Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” It says nothing about she who finds a husband. Chili really has the game twisted. Maybe her messing around with Usher has her outlook and perception on dating all messed up (yep #shots).
Second, Chili acts real self-righteous. I’m not saying that she doesn’t have the right to be but lets face it. She has stated on her show that she really wants to have another child. Let’s run down her statistics. According to Wikipedia, she is 39 years old and a single mother. Personally I just wouldn’t be excited about going into a situation with a woman knowing that it would be a ready-made family type thing. At damn near 40, based on child bearing years, she’s pretty ancient. She also has a lot of baggage as far as previous relationships in the public eye (Dallas Austin, Usher, Floyd Mayweather and T.J. Holmes). That being said Chili has many flaws just like the men she dates so for her not to even give most of them a chance seems a little sanctimonious.
What Chili Wants is a microcosm of what occurs in society today. I see it on twitter a lot as well with trending topics such as #ICouldNeverDate. Everyone wants to say what they won’t put up with and what is wrong with the dating pool that they are exposed to. My advice is to look within yourself first because I guarantee most times the things that you say you won’t tolerate, you probably exude. That’s just my advice. Rozonda Thomas (or whoever this fits), take it how you will.