I get the best feeling in the world when you say hi or even smile at me because I know, even if its just for a second, that I’ve crossed your mind. ~ Author Unknown
****Before I begin let me make the disclaimer that this has nothing to do with me. Shame that I still have to make disclaimers but it’s whatever. Guarantee I’ll still get inquires as to whom I’m talking about. ****
Last week I was listening to Vivian Green’s sophomore album titled Vivian. The lyrics to the song Perfect Decision has been stuck in my head ever since. The thing I love about Vivian is her strong voice and powerful lyrics. As you can tell by the quoted (below) she sings about things that I’m sure we’ve all been through.
The skin against my skin
I’m begging to resist
I want to scream for more
I want to run out the door
The skin against my skin
The skin of my best friend
We never even kissed
So how’d we get to this?
He loves me oh so much
But he never shared his touch
As natural as it feels
I don’t want it to kill
Something so flawless
That we both cherish
And as bad as I need it
We could ruin something so perfect
This is a dangerous, volatile situation. Falling for someone who is your friend is a dangerous, slippery slope. Going down that path with someone who knows certain things about you, who knows intimate details about you can seem like a good idea.
You become good friends with a person and you hang out with them all the time then gradually you realize that you are falling for them. What do you do? How do you handle these feelings for a friend? Will it ruin the friendship?
First, this is a common situation. Many, many friends become closer and closer and then start thinking about dating. It’s only natural. There are hundreds of movies about this situation. These movies sometimes turn out to have fairy tale endings or not so happy endings. It’s the ideal way to start a relationship, because all relationships should be based on trust, honesty and communication. These are traits that friends have built in. An ideal relationship is between best friends who love each other. Key word being ideal.
The one question that has to be asked, is what happens when the relationship doesn’t pan out? What happens to the friendship that was so valued? These are questions that Vivian also asked herself.
What if we want more from each other?
What if we become only part-time lovers?
What if our drama-free friendship suffers?
What if everything we’ve built get lost under the covers?
Will I think it’s the same the way you scream out my name
Thought it would ever come to this
Who’d thought I’d like your touch, your kiss
I don’t wanna miss this opportunity, maybe we’re suppose to be
Stop askin questions, and guessing and keep it going
Have you ever taken a friendship to the next level? How did it work out for you? Do you think it’s a good idea to risk a friendship for moments of passion or even a relationship?