Shoutout to my frat brother and schoolmate @shummy_is_loved for suggesting this topic. I was actually thinking about touching this subject based on things that I’ve read around the internets and seen first hand. Here’s his tweet:
No strings attached only works if the parties ain’t worth shit…if one/both are keepers then somebody is gonna catch feelings eventually
I know there is a lot of debate on which sex is the one who can’t handle a No Strings Attached (NSA) relationship. Of course being a man I want to say that its women but I know better. I know dudes that have gotten caught up thinking they were just kicking it and ended up catching some for real feelings. So if you want to turn it into a debate go right ahead but I’m going to tackle the issue that @i_am_shummy stated. If both people who are in NSA relationship are actually worthwhile people who are doing something with their lives and are all around good people its only so long before one or both parties catch feelings.
It may be the man. It may be the woman. Think about every NSA relationship that you’ve had [if any]. If one person isn’t about shit and all they bring to the relationship is sex then most likely they are the one that will probably end up catching feelings. If you’ve never caught feelings in a NSA relationship then you were probably just used for your sex. Sorry to break it to you.
If a man and woman spend enough time together outside of the bedroom you start to get to know each other as people. Mistake number one in a NSA relationship. What started as strictly a sexual thing has spilled out in other areas of your life. Now you know that they are funny, compassionate, intelligent and generous. You really can’t start to look at them like sexual object used to bring down your horny meter a couple of notches.
Mistake number two is starting to care. Once you start to know more and more about this person who you were only supposed to know during bewitching hours you start to think about them during the day, even when you aren’t with them. Now you’re beginning to care about their well being. At this point you are on a very slippery slope. Then it comes. One of the parties does the inevitable. They let their feelings for the other become known. Mistake number three. At this point you may as well not call it a NSA relationship anymore. Expectations have been lifted and you’ve come to the proverbial fork in the road. To the left you have the road that takes you down “feelings are getting intense and before things get any deeper I think its best we go our separate ways.” and to right we have “this started out as a fun thing and I’m interested to see where things go.”
Either way, like @shummy_is_loved concluded, No Strings Attached relationships only work if only one or none of the parties aren’t about shit. So people have you ever been in a NSA relationship or seen one work? What do you think of @shummy_is_loved’s theory?