There’s this woman I have a crush on. I know what you’re thinking. “Tunde has a crush on everybody”. Let me tell you what makes this crush different. 1). Her name isn’t Melanie Fiona. and 2). I don’t know this woman. Never met her. Don’t even know what she looks like. I didn’t think this was even possible.
Let me explain how I came to such a crossroad. See on any given weekday I read somewhere between 15-30 different blogs. Some of these blogs discuss relationships, some discuss music. Others are finance based but most are personal blogs that discuss randomness (similar to mine). This is how I came to this happenstance. See there’s a certain lawyer blogging woman who has a propensity to use $1,000 words and is a great story teller. Sidebar: a woman with an excellent vocabulary is sexy.
This got me thinking. And we all know great things occur when I start thinking. Attraction doesn’t always have to be physical. I’m aware that initial attraction is based mostly on physical looks but there times when attraction has nothing to do with the physical.
I have a lot of female friends who I’m not the least bit physically attracted to. Not saying that they aren’t attractive but I’m not attracted to them. There’s a difference. What attracted me to those women to the point where I call them my friends is their personality. Personality goes a long way in my book.
A 9 can be bumped down to a 7 easily if her personality doesn’t add up to her looks. On the other hand a woman who is a 7 might be bumped up to an 8 if she has an excellent disposition. I know you’re thinking that a bad personality drops a a woman 2 notches but a good one only raises her stock 1 degree. Yes that’s because as much as personality matters, looks matter just a little bit more. At least to me it does.
This brings me full circle to the my original point of contention. If looks matter more than personality to me how is it possible that I have a crush on someone whom I have no idea how they look?