Last week Slim Jackson invited me to happy hour at Bowlmor Lanes. While sipping my favorite whiskeys (Jack and Jameson) with great company the topic of marriage came up. Mr. Spradley and his wife were there and I don’t know how the group’s discussion turned to marriage. I think I was kind of caught up with Megatron beasting on Chicago’s defense. What caught my attention was when Mr. Spradley said “Now Tunde? He’s almost there. He has like 1 1/2 girlfriends till he gets married.”
I found this quite amusing because here Mr. Spradley was telling me that in about a years time I would either be married or engaged to be married. At present date I don’t even have a girlfriend. I honestly wondered what he saw that I didn’t. His timeline of my steps towards Holy matrimony are as follows. Since its cuffing season I’m probably going to pick up a free agent this winter. I need at least one full summer in New York under my belt. During this summer I’m going to find a woman that I’m going to really like (if I haven’t found her already) and that’s going to be it for me. Of course when asked when Slim was getting married, Mr. Spradley said that he really couldn’t read him because of his poker face.
I’ve done a couple of posts recently in regards to marriage. If you haven’t read them you can see them here and here. I can’t lie. It has been on my mind lately so to hear Mr. Spradley say this was ironic. I respect his opinion but I have to wholeheartedly disagree. There are a multitude of reasons why I won’t be getting married or engaged within the next year. I’ll discuss the ones I feel are most important.
I don’t think I’m financially ready to support a family
I know there are plenty of people who made families work with less than what I have now but those people aren’t me. Growing up I told myself that my children wouldn’t have to experience some (if not all) of the hardships that I experienced. I want my wife to not have to work (if she so chose). I want to know that my family will be taken care of.
I need to be sure
Combined my parents have gone through 3 divorces. I plan on getting married once. God forbid if I ever get divorced I probably won’t remarry. I want to be as close to 100% positive that the woman I marry is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. Assuming that I haven’t met my future wife yet that gives me only about year. I don’t think that is enough time know if I want to spend my life with a woman.
I think that’s about it. I tried thinking of other reasons but thats all I could come up with. These are two big reasons though.